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Matthew, raised in Abington, MA, and living in New York, age 40, passed on to his Eternal reward on January 7, 2024, while at home, surrounded by his father and 8 siblings. Matthew has left us to join his beloved Mother, who was waiting for him, along with Jesus and Mary in heaven.
Matthew leaves behind his loving wife, Shay, and his two beautiful daughters, Averey, age 7 and Brielle, age 6, who were the light of his life. Matthew’s passing will leave a gaping hole in the lives of his father, Robert, his brothers, John, Andrew and Michael and his sisters, Catherine, Bridget, Elizabeth, Mary and Anne Marie, as well as devoted spouses, Alessandra, Natalia, and Christanto. Matthew is also an uncle to Peter, Luciana, and his soon to be born nephew, Jude. Please let us not forget his beloved dog, Buttercup.
Matthew was a graduate of St. Bridget’s School, Xaverian High School and Villanova University, where he earned his undergraduate degree and Master’s degree in engineering. His education was certainly not limited to the formal learning offered in the classroom. Matthew was a student of life who was ever striving to unlock the “best version of himself” - more importantly, he always encouraged others to do so as well. Matthew’s gift allowed him to share his love so freely with others that each person he met felt extremely blessed to have known him.
After completing his studies, Matthew worked for an engineering firm but he always yearned to run his own business. In time, Matthew began a painting company, focusing on interior design, and eventually worked rehabbing homes in New York. Matthew’s ability to build was in his genes, as he was constructing railroads when he was 3 years old , snow tunnels at 11 and, at age 12, he directed his “crew” of friends to build the most amazing four-story fort, with carpeted floors, a basketball hoop, bicycle station, picket fence and a winding staircase.
Matthew’s interests were varied and diverse, from playing high school and college football, skiing, cooking meatballs, finishing house projects, and participating in softball leagues, where Matty not only won the championship but was most proud that he secured the self-proclaimed prize for having the best uniforms, with matching hats, shirts, pants, shoes, and even laces for the sneakers.
Venture to say that any mention of Matthew’s gifts would be remiss if it did not include his unwavering devotion to his siblings, who considered their big brother their hero. Matty had an unmatched ability to plan a party and to create eye-catching Halloween costumes, which he made for himself, his wife, children , sisters and friends. Truly, his ensembles were always something to look forward to every year.
Matthew’s most lasting legacy was his unyielding faith in God, even in the face of the constant pain and struggles he endured in his fight against cancer. Matthew was an active participant in several men’s groups as well as Rosary groups, which met after morning Mass. The people who knew Matthew in these groups have certainly attested that he offered inspiration and direction in living the spiritual life.
Matthew developed a great passion for the Rosary from his beloved Mother. During his illness, he began to design custom Rosaries, for family and friends, each of which was unique in its character and formation. Considering the expression of Padre Pio that the Rosary was a “weapon” to be used to battle against the wiles of Satan, every Rosary was crafted by Matthew with weighted metal beads. As his legacy, Matthew has taught many others how to make Rosaries which will be given and shared with many others in the years to come. During his fight against cancer Matthew held onto one word: Hope. He wanted everyone around him to feel, even in their greatest turmoil, there is always a beacon of light emanating from God Himself. Matt's Rosaries were that signal of hope not only for all those who fingered the beads, but just as importantly for whom the prayers were offered.
Matthew’s thoughtfulness and creativity will be both sorely missed and always remembered as one with the biggest of hearts, and who always cared so much, probably too much, to bring happiness and joy to others. A friend has aptly expressed that Matt will now be on the Joy Team in heaven where he will be constantly interceding on behalf of us all.
Visitation will be held at the Quealy & Son Funeral Home, 116 Adams Street, Abington on Thursday January 11 from 2pm to 8pm. A Mass of Christian Burial will be heldon Saturday January 13 at St. Bridget Church, Abington at 10:30am. Interment St. Patrick Cemetery, Rockland.
In lieu of flowers, please consider a donation to the Matthew Costantino Foundation which had been established for the benefit of his children, Averey and Brielle https://cbo.io/d/donate.php?slug=thisonesformatty